Thursday, March 19, 2009

The 21 Day Challenge!

They say that a habit can be formed in 21 days..........

Wait hold on, OR I believe I have read "a thought becomes a behavior, a behavior becomes a habit, a habit becomes character." Something along the lines of what you think is what you are.

Well, I've been thinking lately................actually, I have been thinking a lot.

For those who know me, you know that I am a girl about self progression. I am always wanting to improve myself. To grow, to learn, to become the best me.

Have I lost you yet? Good, because at this point I am just mumbling.

I have a fear of people and I have a feeling that many people share this common fear. I tend to walk into a room, keep my eyes down, wanting to mind my own business and make as little interaction as possible. Stay in my happy bubble of comfort and bother no one.

Well, this approach is not working for me. So I have given myself a 21 day challenge. I am challenging myself to be the first to say hello, to shake a hand, to have small conversations and be my genuine self as best I can be. No, I am not running for office, this is not an experiment, truly I am doing this to not only make myself better, but hoping a friendly smile might brighten someone elses day. And maybe they will smile or say hello to someone else. Kind of like that pay it forward concept.

So why am I sharing this with all of you? Because on my list of fears the order would go as following.

1. Being trapped in small dark confined space

2. Being burnt to death

3.Talking to people

On this 21 day journey, I am going to need two things to get me through.

1. Being accountable to someone that I am doing this. 21 posts of sharing my journey of grabbing fear by the horns and saying no more!

2. As my friend, if you know that I am doing this and as one of the hardest things I have ever done, a friendly hello back will be encouraging. Know that I am being sincere and genuine in my quest and if I look or sound discouraged, a high five of support will get me back on track.

Well, here we go! Wish me luck, don't let me give in and may the best me come alive!


Me said...

Good Luck! I know you can do it though. Congrats on your journey for improvement, but I honestly think that you really aren't that far away anyways.

Englishfam said...

Suzanne, thank you for your sweet comment. That made my morning a little brighter so thank you! I was really surprised by this post. Although I know I don't know you very well, this didn't seem like you at all. Although you knew most of the people at dinner last night, you were so friendly and fun with those of us who didn't know you as well. Does that make any sense? So you must be doing a good job on your 21 day quest! You are so much fun and I had such a good time last night laughing and sharing thoughts about Ann. Thanks again. :)

Heather Perry said...

Thank you so much for the comment you left on my blog. It meant a lot. I am also so glad that I got to know you last night too. It was a lot of fun. I also think you are doing a great job at this 21 day challenge because I definitely consider you one of my friends now.

Notre Folle Vie said...

I have the same fear Suzanne and I admire your determination to change it. I would rather be the quiet one in the corner than to have to talk to a single person.
But I know that if one of us is to break this fear, you will do it way before I do. Good Luck! *Big Hug*

Carrie said...

I have the same fear. I really go out of my way to be a wall flower, especially in larger groups. I always make this goal to change and go out of my way to make some new friends, and then become a coward at the last minute. You can do it SUZ!!!!!

Jenice Henrie said...

Good luck with your goal. This is a very tough challenge. Just stay true to yourself and everyone will love you.

Miss Megan said...

I had fun last night too, and thanks again for having such a squeezable bootylicious bum! ;)

Ann Marie said...

Megan's comment cracks me up!
Crack.. ha-ha....

I could tell you were stepping out of your comfort zone last night.. and it made it so fun!! You were fun!! I am grateful you came and I think this is a wonderful challenge.

I had a wise man tell me long ago that if I gave 5 "sincere" compliments a day.. I would feel better each day. I tried it, and it was such a up-lifting thing for me.. I have tried to keep it up ever since. I find myself many days when I go to blogs and feel jealous about something someone has posted about-- it makes me have to "overcome my jealousy " by finding something sincere and kind to say. We all have our things that we need to do to "step up.." I really think this challenge is wise.. " Way to go!!

The Faithful Girl said...

Good Luck!! It is hard to be the one that initiates conversations. I used to be really good at it, but as I've gotten older I've gotten a little bit shy. I've been trying to be better at this too!

Natalie said...

Okay ... I am REALLY interested in what you did "last night" and your "squeezable bootylicious bum". Very intrigued.

I know where you're coming from and I think this is perfect. I think that this will go much further than you ever think it will. I do believe it will help others to see what they need to see and what their perceptions are.

You are such a wonderful person, Suzanne. Truly one of my favorite people and someone who I look up to with utmost respect.

Is 'utmost' a word?

Anyway, I love you and think the world of you.

I know you can do this and that you can overcome.


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