Friday, June 19, 2009

Can I Have a Hug?


I was driving in the car yesterday, yacking with Shae, tickling her legs and have a grand ol time when a woman pulled up next to me and gave me the nastiest glare I had ever gotten in my life.
My mind races to think if I had done any rude driving habits and no, I was just driving along. The only thing I could think of is that I had been tickling Shae. The thought became very clear that from behind, it "could" have looked like I was beating my kid. The arm reaches back to the back seat, my child's arms and legs are flying, pushing my hand away, and lately even I have seen one to many domestic car abuses that I wished I had not witnessed. I could understand where she may have been coming from. To which when I made the connection I looked her right in the face, made eye contact, reached my arm back, tickled Shae and drove away both Shae and I laughing our heads off.
"Heads off?" Whoever came up with that phrase? Kind of creepy when you think about it.hmmmm....Anyway!
I have been thinking of how much I depend on physical touch. I have been looking around my world and noticing that we have become a "non-touchy" people and internally I have wept. I can see how society has made our world untouchable because of certain wrong messages can be perceived. I am not so naive to say that all hugs are innocent however it seems that the few wrongs have spoiled it for the rest of us.
I remember when I was 12 years old, I went through a phase that I needed a hug from my mom all the time! ALL THE TIME! I drove her so nuts that one day, she gave me a hug and told me the constant hugging had to stop. I don't blame her, I can see that it would be very time consuming and annoying, however my craving subsided for only a short period of time.
I think that when I was YW president that I creeped the young women out with my hugs. So I started slowly with a handshake, to knuckles, to half hugs to full on hugs. I even had a young woman who flat out told me 3 years ago that she "doesn't do hugs." Really? hmmm... It took me 2 years, but by the end of that time, she came to me and gave me the hugs.
So whats the payoff for me? I can honestly tell you that my hugs are pure. The best way I could describe it is this:
"a hug is not romantic, and it's not intimate. I'm a firm believer in the power of a hug. It's the kind of embrace you get from a friend, a parent, a sibling-sometimes a stranger-with no expectations or implications, just a simple expression of concern, support and acceptance." -Wade
I am scared to think what kind of world we will become if we stopped hugging, or holding the hand of a loved one. You may be saying to yourself "well, I'm just not a touchy person." Really? You need a hug! Lots of hugs! And then you will miss the embrace of someone in this world that is saying that they care for you.
So, I challenge you today, to go out and hug someone! Hug your spouse, hug your children, hug your friends, and if you are brave enough, hug a stranger. I promise that both parties will feel a lot better.
And in the long wrong, I may be getting less glares for tickling my daughter!

8 comments:

Mackenzie said...

Maybe she wasn't giving you a nasty look. Maybe that is just the way she looks. Sounds like she needs a hug!!!

Cute post, Suz.

Now I'm gonna go find someone to hug.

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Sorry I don't remember this happening when you were 12 and that it left this strong of an impression--there are still many more.

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Suzanne said...

Thanks Mom!! I appreciate that! I love you! -Suzanne

Ann Marie said...

I am totally a touchy-feely person.. so I have no problem. I LOVE hugs!
Good thoughts!
And what is it with people lately? Lots of friends I know are getting nasty looks. Maybe the world needs a lot more love in it.....

Happy weekend! XO

Me said...

I am a total hug person too. Until you pointed it out though, I didn't notice that this is becoming a non-hug world. Quite sad actually.

And it's also sad that you can't have fun with your daughter in your car without getting nasty looks. Geez, what is this world coming too?

Have fun tonight!

{Mo} said...

Hmmm, I'm not sure where I fit in this one. I am by no means anti-hugs.... in fact I love hugs from my kids, the hubby, friends. But I do have to say, sometimes hugs from people I don't know well, feel awkward to me.
That said, I can't imagine a touch free world, how cold and awful that would be!

T. L. C. said...

If I could give ya a hug, I would :) I have this friend Holly, and I tell ya..She is a GREAT hug giver! Have you ever had someone tell ya "Oh I've missed your hugs?" Well, I say it to Holly everytime I see her because she gives you this embrace that makes you know that the time you have been apart was truly missed.

GREAT advice! I love how you added that if your not, you need to be because its so true how you never know when that person will be out of your life.

Heather said...

You are right about how the world has become a place where there is less and less hugs.

This post make me want to go and squeeze my hubby and my little girl tight but they are in bed. :)

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