For some reason, adoption has been in many of my conversations lately, which is good. I am proactive about having another baby.
Just as a refresher, yes, Brian and I are trying to adopt. Yes, Shaeler is our biological daughter, but it seems that we are not able to have children of our own at this time.
Now, with that out of the way, I thought I would give some helpful hints to those who are also being proactive for Brian and I.
I had a friend call me last week and tells me there is a girl in her ward that is due in 6 weeks. Then she is silent.
I tell her that is great news!
She tells me she is 16 and should not be keeping a baby at 16.
I ask her if the girl has considered adoption or if she has decided to keep the baby?
She says that she does not know, but will give me her name and number and I can call her.
(That is the sound of a record player stopping, if you cannot hear the sound affect.)
I have to gently explain to her that I cannot call up a complete stranger and try to figure out a nice way to say "Hey, can I have your baby?''
It took some explaining and finding out what type of relationship my friend has with this 16 year old girl, and explaining to her that she needs to gently find out if the girl has decided to keep the baby and possibly marry the birthfather
if she has decided to give the baby up for adoption that she knows and incredible couple that would be phenominal parents and the best life they could possibly give her baby , and and..........
Well you get the point.
At this stage of the adoption process, referrals are our strongest ally!
So ladies, if you hear anything, be a friend to the girl that is making the hardest decision of her life. Support her, love her and let it be her decision.
If you know of somone who has decided to give up a baby, then start spreading the word about our little family.
We are patient, it just takes someone like you to say something to someone you may know.