Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Good Intentions..............but it needs some work!

Ah, you guys give me a good laugh some times!
For some reason, adoption has been in many of my conversations lately, which is good. I am proactive about having another baby.
Just as a refresher, yes, Brian and I are trying to adopt. Yes, Shaeler is our biological daughter, but it seems that we are not able to have children of our own at this time.
Now, with that out of the way, I thought I would give some helpful hints to those who are also being proactive for Brian and I.
I had a friend call me last week and tells me there is a girl in her ward that is due in 6 weeks. Then she is silent.
Cricket, Cricket!
I tell her that is great news!
She tells me she is 16 and should not be keeping a baby at 16.
I ask her if the girl has considered adoption or if she has decided to keep the baby?
She says that she does not know, but will give me her name and number and I can call her.
EEERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!
(That is the sound of a record player stopping, if you cannot hear the sound affect.)
I have to gently explain to her that I cannot call up a complete stranger and try to figure out a nice way to say "Hey, can I have your baby?''
It took some explaining and finding out what type of relationship my friend has with this 16 year old girl, and explaining to her that she needs to gently find out if the girl has decided to keep the baby and possibly marry the birthfather
OR
if she has decided to give the baby up for adoption that she knows and incredible couple that would be phenominal parents and the best life they could possibly give her baby , and and..........
Well you get the point.
At this stage of the adoption process, referrals are our strongest ally!
So ladies, if you hear anything, be a friend to the girl that is making the hardest decision of her life. Support her, love her and let it be her decision.
HOWEVER!!
If you know of somone who has decided to give up a baby, then start spreading the word about our little family.
We are patient, it just takes someone like you to say something to someone you may know.

9 comments:

Ann Marie said...

What? She wanted you to call this 16 yr old? I'll say WHAT? again??
That is sooo WEIRD!

Of course we would recommend!!
I really feel that when it is the right time and little one.. things will happen...

Mom of twins ♥ said...

That would be very hard to call someone up and ask them for their baby.. Very odd! I keep praying that you will get a little one. You guys are great parents. Best of luck and I hope soon you will be able to have that opportunity!

Heather Perry said...

I could never call someone up and just ask for their baby. I don't think she thought about what that would sound like.

I will defiantly recommend you guys.

{Mo} said...

If the situation ever comes up I would for sure reccomend you and Brian. I can't immagine anyone ever calling someone up and ASKING to have their baby? Silly!

Cherie said...

I am sure your friend was trying to help and probably didn't think through the situation. That would definately be awkward.

I bet with all the great friends you have it will just be a matter of time.

Adoption is the neatest thing in the world. I'm rootin' for you.

T. L. C. said...

O what a touchy subject. I couldnt make that call uness it was like you said...the whole process.

I'll keep you guys in my prayers. Your a wonderful mother!!!!

Kristen said...

It's always in the back of my mind just in case I come across anything. It will happen!

Faithful said...

Having been in the same situation (deciding if I should keep my baby or give him up for adoption), if someone just called me out of the blue to ask me for my baby I probably would've been creeped out, scared me, and made me weary of giving my baby to anyone.

Adoption is a beautiful, beautiful thing. It's such a delicate process. You're friends definintely need to be the ones to find out if adoption is being considered, then reccomend you.

I hope and pray that a baby finds you. Any child would be lucky to be part of your family.

JENNIFRO said...

DITTO with what Ann said!! I had to read that twice. VERY ODD INDEED!

I always have your family in mind. You just never know when the occasion might arise.....

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